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What Men Really Want

March 8, 2010 by edward

Women often say that men confuse them and that they are unsure what a man is really looking for. They have tried to please them in the past and it hasn't worked so no, the man can concentrate on pleasing them or leave. If the media is to be believed, many women don't care what a man is looking for anymore because they have been empowered by their own sexuality and are comfortable in their new role as sexually liberated career woman in charge of their own destiny. In which case, as long as the man wants them, that is fine.

It doesn't matter whether that view is actually true or not. What is true is that the modern man is increasingly struggling to find his place in the world. The Armed Forces and Space programs quite rightly have very highly qualified career women working in their departments and in most aspects of industry, women excel. The old male bastions are crumbling and with them their innate self respect as well as their understanding of how they should act and what they desire.

Any woman reading this may say well it's a problem for men and they should deal with it. Absolutely, but you cannot expect miracles instantly. Generations of history dictating a man's role and function cannot be decided and altered in the space of 20 years without some fallout. Few can argue against the excitement felt by women as their empowerment continues but at the same time, one must expect issues to coincide with this. And one of those as I said is the question of understanding what the modern man is looking for.

Know yourself

February 2, 2010 by edward

This post is from MatchAffinity.co.uk
Know yourself - By Dr Cecilia d'Felice, Clinical Psychologist

Before launching yourself back into the exciting world of dating, take a few moments to think about where you are at. So often we go into relationships hoping that somehow the other person will complete us, becoming our other half. Whilst this might happen for some couples, most of us need to acknowledge our individuality. We might not want to merge completely with someone else, although it often feels like this is what happens when we fall in love. The reality is that we are two separate people, with different ways of thinking, living, working, caring and loving.

What are you looking for?

Take a moment to think about the sort of person you really want to be with now. In the past you might have been attracted to 'bad boys' or 'naughty girls'. These characteristics are always going to be attractive but they might not really be what you need in a relationship that has the potential to last. Think about your checklist of what your ideal is: write it all down, from the colour of their hair to the size of their feet. Now throw that list away. Most of what is written on it won't help you find the person that will make you happy.
Values

Relationships that are built to last are founded on two key things. One is similarity - yes it's true - the more similar we are to our partner in background, shape and attractiveness, the longer the relationship is likely to last. This is because we like to see ourselves in others, which is why couples often look the same. The other vital thing is shared values. If you have common goals, beliefs and ambitions then you have a good chance of enjoying a happy and fulfilling relationship. Without shared values, well frankly, it's going to be a bit of a struggle. It's not that it won't work; it's just that there will be more conflict.

What are yours?

First Date Tips

February 2, 2010 by edward

This post is from MatchAffinity.co.uk

First Date Tips - By Dr Cecilia d'Felice, Clinical Psychologist

You have made contact; you like the look of each other and your messages and emails are fun, full of life, promising and hopeful. You take the plunge and decide to make a date! You choose a place to meet that suits you both, remembering that first dates are best arranged as drinks or coffee. Dinner, lunch or a trip can feel too long if it is not working out for you both, but a casual drink can give you enough time to know if you would like to spend longer with each other on another occasion. It's all set to go! The excitement rises, as do your nerves. We want to make the best impression we can and it can feel as if the stakes are very high for that first, important meeting.

Be your own best-friend

When preparing yourself for your first date, be generous and compassionate towards yourself. Most first date nerves are generated by being overly critical, undermining and self-sabotaging yourself. You wouldn't say to your best friend before a date, 'You look tired/old/unattractive...' or 'What is that THING you are wearing!' So why say it to yourself? It will only make you feel unconfident and erode your self-esteem. So, to get yourself into a good place before your first date become your own best-friend. Remind yourself of all your positive qualities, what you care about and what you value. Taking these things along with you on the date will make you feel good about yourself and if you feel good about yourself, you date is going to feel good about you too.
Relax and Prepare

Asking someone out on a date

October 10, 2009 by edward

If you like someone and want to know them more, you may have to ask them for a date. This is a standard practice for men, and it is increasingly becoming common among women. If you have someone in mind that you would love to go out with, breathe deeply and follow these guidelines.

Ask yourself first – Know why you are asking them out and if it is for the right reasons. Recognize your expectations as a result of them saying yes or no.

Saying no is a possibility – Be prepared that the person you ask may say no. If this happens, do not take the rejection personally and do not chase them as well. They maybe thinking of things and get back to you with a “yes” later.

Choose the right moment – See to it that the person you are asking is in a light mood. At certain instances, do not approach them when they are stressed out after work, while eating, or while with a group of friends.

Practice what you should say – Don’t think of the cheesiest pick-up line imaginable. A simple “Hi! My name is…and I was wondering if you are free for lunch today?” is enough. Practice what you might say in advance so that you don’t appear tongue-tied.

Avoid asking them out while drunk – You may think that taking a shot before asking would boost your courage level, actually it’s not. It would backfire, too.

Prepare the place, date, and time, in advance – Before asking them out, be sure that you already have an idea where and when your date would be, just in case they say yes. In this way, you are showing that you are thoughtful.

Create a sense of trust immediately – If the person asks you why you want to date them, flatter about his or her personality. People can be wary and may want to know some reason behind your request. You can say, “I have always thought you are great fun…”

Do not pressure them into saying yes – If they want to think about it, let them. But don’t chase.

Learn to be the one that women really want

July 29, 2009 by edward

Women will tell you they want a nice guy who treats them like a Princess; a kind and sensitive guy who they can talk to about their problems. Wrong! This is not the guy want the really want!

On a subconscious level, women will tell you they really want a man who will lead (not bossy), makes the majority of the decisions but still allows them to be themselves.

Women want their men to be men. Not pathetic wimps who fawn over them and ask for approval all the time. Simple really. When you take girls out to expensive dinners, fall all over them with flowers and chocolates, they end up later that night thanking you for a great evening and closing the door? But if you just go for a quick drink and act like you are equals, she feels attracted to you because you're not catering to her every whim. What about this … You call a girl often after a date and she seems distant and distracted but when you don't call her and you act like you're busy, she won't stop calling you.

Women don’t want to be catered to, hounded, treated like a Princess or fawned all over.

This is what women really want from a man:
They want YOU to lead-----You are the king.
They want you to be confident----Who wants to live with a inferiority man?
They want you to be fun with no hang ups ----No woman wants to date a dull man.
They want you to make them laugh-----This also applies to men.
They want you to be interesting-----This makes your daily life no longer boring.
They want you to know how to behave – good manners are important.
They want you to know what you want from life------You should have your life goal.
They DON’T want you to get emotional.

When your life is going to plan, you feel confident and when you feel confident, you exude a persona that naturally attracts people and makes them want to be around you. No one likes dating a sad sack.

Get most out of your BBW dating sites

July 25, 2009 by edward

If you’re looking for a BBW single online then you’ll want to get as much as possible out of your choice of BBW dating site. The first dilemma you will have is choosing the right service. Having the choice of more than one BBW online dating service can be used to your advantage.

Make the most of your free trials

You can make the most of your free trials by setting up a trial on more than one BBW dating site. Most singles will just join one service and not get the results they were hoping for then give up their online dating adventure. If you join more than one BBW dating service you’ll have so many more options open to you that you’ll probably start getting results where you least expect them. You could get contacted on the BBW online dating service that has the least amount of BBW singles in your area.

Use different photos

Experiment with the different BBW dating web sites where you have set up your free trials with different photographs on your BBW personal ads. You’ll be able to see which photo gets you the most contact, and it can be the one that you least expect. You’ll get more emails if they can actually see what you look like as well. Many BBW singles use photos where they are too far away from the camera or the photo is too dark. If you can’t be seen you won’t get any contact. This is why BBW singles with photographs on their profile get up to 20 times more contact than BBW singles without a photo.

See how many BBW singles are in your area

Joining more than one BBW dating site will give you the chance to see which service has the most compatible BBW singles living in your city or state. You’ll find a lot more singles if you expand your search criteria when looking for compatible singles. If you’re too fussy with your criteria you will only have a few results to choose from. If you’re a little more open minded than usual you’ll have many more BBW singles to choose from.
Don’t upgrade too soon

Sugar daddy dating extortion case

July 18, 2009 by edward

A Cassopolis woman has a court date next month in Connecticut on charges she tried to extort money from a man whom she met on an Internet dating site.

On Thursday, Miller, 45, a mother and wife, was transferred to the custody of Greenwich police, who brought her to state Superior Court, where she was charged with larceny counts, according to the newspaper the Greenwich Time.

Prosecutors, according to the newspaper, say Miller was part of a "conspiracy" to extort about $8,000 from Stephen Dent, 54, a Harvard-educated multimillionaire and duPont heir.

The Greenwich Time said Miller is the fourth person to be charged with attempting to blackmail Dent by threatening to expose relationships he formed with women he met through the site SeekingArrangement.com, an "elite sugar daddy dating site," police said.

The newspaper said a warrant revealed that Dent notified police in March that two woman were trying to extort cash from him.
Dent told police in a sworn statement that "I had been having a cybersex relationship with two women, known to me at the time as Sara Laste and Meghan Allen," the newspaper said.

Dent told police the women sent him text messages threatening to expose him to his co-workers if he didn’t pay them money, the Greenwich Time said.

Miller, the newspaper said, appeared in court on Friday for her arraignment.She was charged with conspiracy to commit larceny, first-degree criminal attempt at larceny and second-degree larceny.

She is expected to be in court again on Aug. 6.

Connecticut attorney Mark Sherman, who is representing Miller, told the newspaper his client plans to post bond, which was set at $100,000 during Friday's arraignment.

Niche dating----BBW dating sites

July 15, 2009 by edward

As more people turn to the internet to find love and romance, online dating and BBW dating in particular has a huge following on line and continues to grow on a daily basis.

While bigger women and plus sizes can mean many things, the media continue to portray that women should be thin and sexy. Thus we are led to believe that big beautiful women are being ignored by most men in favor of thin women.
In fact, this doesn’t hold any truth to it at all. For a variety of reasons, not all single men are looking for a woman that is thin; plenty of men love big women . They may prefer women similar to themselves; see large women as healthy or just prefer cuddly women.

If you are a man who are interested in dating plus size women, or a bigger woman looking for Mr. Right, then give bbw date sites a try.

Big Beautiful Women Dating Sites

While you can call bigger women overweight, obese, fat, or any unflattering terms that many call these ladies today — the possibility you will find the right man that will totally accept you for who you are is out looking for love with bbw web sites.
Men also are looking for love and romance with big beautiful women with online BBW dating services to find big Mrs. Right. BBW online dating sites offer a perfect meeting place for plus size women to find the right man that will love them for who they are, as well as for men who prefer a woman with curves that they are more comfortable with.

BBW, dating web sites on the Internet offers a place where plus-sized women can search to find the man of their dreams. In fact a bbw dating website offers a non-biased, non-judgmental environment where bigger women can just be accepted the way they are, while looking for the right man that they can spend their whole life with.

Looking for love... or a "Sugar Daddy"?

July 11, 2009 by edward

With Valentine's Day just around the corner, many of you are looking for love. But is love enough these days?

There are a lot of Jacksonville ladies out there looking for cash to go with their crush. And there are a lot of men out there ready, willing, and able to accommodate.

CBS47/FOX30's Leslie Coursey takes a closer look at singles searching for a sugar daddy online.

Web makes "Sugar Daddy" search easy

?You go to the same bars, you see the same people, you interact with the same people,? says local single Shannon O?Donnell. ?And it just gets old."

Like so many people in her situation, Shannon turned to the internet for dating.

"I started off and met tons of people,? she says. ?[I] probably went on 100 dates. And then one day, I had a little pop up that said to go to millionairematch.com, and I said, ?well, I'm dating all these guys. I might as well date one with money.?"

She logged on, and after a few emails and phone calls, Shannon snagged herself a ?sugar daddy?. They had a series of weekend rendezvous.

?He definitely had a lot of money,? Shannon says. ?He showed up in his escalade and had already rented me a suite in a hotel and he had stayed in a hotel away from mine, which was nice, not presumptuous.?

Despite the mutual interest, Shannon says the relationship eventually didn?t work out because he lived in Atlanta.

?We went out to great dinners, went to some shows, went shopping. He was definitely a sugar daddy, absolutely."

There are dozens of online dating sites aimed at matching men with money with women who want it. Rich men looking for arm candy, someone to spoil, even extra-marital affairs.

If you find somebody that you like [...] and they happen to have money, why not?

From: http://www.cbs47.com

Why does wealthy dating become popular

July 11, 2009 by edward

Millionairs looking for love are definitely finding a helping hand with provocative new dating sites intended to match successful and financially stable singles with gorgeous suitors. Unlike traditional dating sites, these wealth-based-pairing sites have found a unique niche in the midst of recent economic downturn.

Millionaires have always had an edge up with those seeking to climb the social ladder, find a stable partner to raise a family with, and, quite frankly, ensure their financial well-being. It’s no surprise that with the expanding gap between the have’s and the have not’s. With one percent of the world claiming over 50% of the worlds wealth, those who find themselves positioned on the side of the “have’s” have found these intriguing sites as the newest and most effective way to screen their potential partners.

Wealthy Divorcee’s have also seen the value in dating websites that feature their lofty incomes, or savings accounts, as among one of their many peacock feathers.

Rich men and women didn’t reach the heights of financial empowerment by being meek, and the profiles on a wealthy dating site show just how direct, yet still tactful, these well-to-do romantics are.

Attractive young singles make up the majority of those seeking wealthy mates on these stunning websites, with over 50% of them being under the age of 30, according one wealthy dating website representative. Without the same confidence in the economy as many may have had a decade ago, those who would have been hesitant in finding love based on the criteria of wealth, are becoming more bold.

Rich men aren’t just able to provide me with things I need, such as my college debt paid and a bright future with the chance of having a nice house, etc, but they’re usually of a certain quality not found elsewhere.